Will I get my son full custody if I take my boyfriend to court? Â

Will I get my son full custody if I take my boyfriend to court?  

answers 0:So I am planning to take my boyfriend to court for verbal abuse towards me but I'm wondering if I get an AVO against him will that mean I can have full custody of our son.to be fair he has never threaten our son but he threatens to kill me if I leave him and take our son with me.he doesn't really help me with him at home but I'm not sure if I could win full custody because I don't ever wanna see this guy..he smokes weed,no job, doesn't even bother to look for one,dont drive never had..and just too lazy....Show moreanswers 1:"I don't ever wanna see this guy..he smokes weed,no job, doesn't even bother to look for one,dont drive never had..and just too lazy."You don't "wanna" see him but you had no issues with fvcking him? Of course he will get either joint custody or visi! tation. He's your son's parent same as you are. And even you admit that he's never been violent towards the child. If you're not happy with the way he's treating you, why did you pick him to breed with?...answers 2:You are the one who decided to tether yourself to this man one way or the other for 18 years when you had a child with him. You now need to suck it up and do what is best for your child. He needs his mother and his father in his life.answers 3:You did a fine job on picking a daddy for your child, huh.answers 4:You can't make any accusations without proof. The judge will not listen to it. If you claim he is violent the judge will need to see police reports and medical reports. If you say he wants to kill you, you are going to need to have those threats on video, audio or in a text. But without any proof the judge will assume you are lying as there are too many people who lie about their partners in custody hearingsThe reality is, if you re not married you are! assumed to be the primary custodian if you do not live togeth! er. So the first thing you need to do is get out. Talk to a domestic violence charity and make a plan. Before you leave make sure you get anything of value or importance (passport, credit cards, jewelry, etc) as well as anything you can sell (designer clothing, handbags, etc) and get them out little by little every day and put them in a safe place - at work, at a friend's house, rent a small storage facility or whatever. But get them out. Then when you do leave when he's not there, you only take what you need in one or two bags unless you can have someone help you and you are sure you will be out before he gets homeIf he wants custody after you move out he first needs to go to court for a DNA test to prove he is the father. Then he has to go to court to ask for custody. In the meantime you need to get as much evidence as you can about drugs, violence, etc. next time he is violent call the police. Try to get his threats against you on video or audio. But you are going to ne! ed proof to get full custody of the child. Without proof he is going to get up to 50% custody...answers 5:Just so you know...your accusations mean almost nothing at all in court. Especially family court. Everyone makes wild accusations against the other and the judges hear it all day. If you don't have a police report showing that you've called them for these threats, then the threats don't exist. If you don't have a medical or psychologist evaluation saying that you have been abused, then the abuse never happened.Sorry, that's just the way it is. If you want to win, you need to start calling the cops on him....answers 6:Based on your answer and additional details it is a bit hard to tell what is truth. It does appear you are just exaggerating to save face if not a troll. Having said that...... if this IS the truth.... Please read the my entire comment. Even if you think I am a B****, if you are telling the truth then you need to understand some things. As a moth! er you need to get your head on straight and pull your life together. ! I am going to take the time to tell you the truth and try to help you because it sounds like your child needs it. You just shot yourself in the foot. Your statements above will be enough for the judge to dismiss your case. More importantly the statements above may be enough for you to be in serious trouble if you attempt to pursue this. I am not a lawyer and at this point you need to contact one before you attempt any legal action. Go to your state website and your county website and look for legal-aid. While you are there you need to do some research to learn your rights and your responsibilities. If your boyfriend / ex-boyfriend has threatened you, hurt you or anyone else, or done criminal activity. Sit down and make a list. Everything you can think of with details -- when, where, what happened, who saw it -- write it all down. If you can think of anyone who actually saw him do something you need to have them write it on a piece of paper and take it to a ! notary and sign it. You can go to any bank, check cashing place, post office, even most grocery stores and libraries. From this point on if he threatens / hurts you then you need to immediately call the police and file a police report. Before the cop leaves ask him for your incident report number and keep it. Repeat the steps in the paragraph above. It sounds like right now your boyfriend really doesn't care much about your son. This likely gives you a great opportunity to get him to sign something which will benefit you. It may be a good idea to get some kind of agreement in writing (signed, notarized, and filed with the court) which details a visiting schedule, who will make decisions such as religion, school, health, finances, and anything else. Do NOT include anything about all the crap above or anything negative. You want this. Keep it positive and about your son. When you do this have two copies ready, typed, edited, and ready for him to sign. One cop! y with everything except the money portion. Instead write something li! ke monetary responsibilities have been excluded from this document. Then have a second copy which contains the money agreement. This way if he refused to sign about the money at the last minute you still can get the other stuff signed. When you do the money section put his share of support as a percent of income with a specific dollar amount minimum. This way if he gets a raise you do not have to wait months/years for a new court case. You can also try to work things in like he will be responsible for ____ (in whole or specific percent) for things like medical expenses, dental work, health insurance, school costs, daycare, clothing, sports, ect. You also need to pull your life together. Be a model mother and make good decisions. Do not bring any person into your life that is not a great influence. Go back to school and get at least a basic education. Look at every aspect of your life and think does my son deserve this or does he deserve better? Then make it h! appen....answers 7:unless he is a biological father of the child he has no rights to your son....if he is the biological father just prove he smokes weed and you will get the kid