How to go about getting a divorce?

Zelma Casebier: Talk to a lawyer and look into what your state does - divorce is different state-to-state

Sang Hanafin: first thing you want to do is talk to a lawyer. remove all indications that you've inquired about getting a divorce. it's something you don't want him finding out about for various reasons.

Germaine Tieken: Sorry to hear you may be getting a divorce. It is a painful process. I am on the verge of getting one myself. My advice is to get a support network of a few trusted friends, seek counseling if only for yourself) and consult a lawyer. Try not be make it a nasty divorce otherwise you'll likely end up broke.Try to mediate it.